Wednesday, July 15, 2009

They are only words...

As a regular blog reader, though my own blog remains largely inactive, I have come to find a I have my favorites. The ones I rush to read as soon as they are posted, ones that consistently add something new, or some spark! While many of the blogs I subscribe to are great - One that is always a first priority is PriorFatGirl. Jen, aka PriorFatGirl, shares her story of triumph over the scale with great deal of fun - but also with a lot of honesty.

However, as I was reading a recent post - I notice a statement that concerned me and I felt
compelled to comment. SO I said something:

Also - Not trying to be an alarmist - but pehaps you should think about this quote: "I know if some of you were told you should be eating more, you would roll your eyes and ignore the advice too - right?" has the potential to deliver the wrong message. (Especially to a bunch of young women who want to lose weight) Because some people need to eat more. And those people should listen to the people that tell them to do so. And there are real issues when you don't eat the food your body needs.

So I'm assuming the best and that you are eating healthily - and enough. But I just felt I needed to say something - at least for my own state of being, if nothing else.

I wasn't sure if it was the right thing to do or not, because I certainly don't know the whole situation, and I never want to be see as self-righteous. However, today I read a new post and found, much to my suprise, I had been highlighted in the new prior fat girl post! Here is what she said:

Ruby Leigh made a VERY GOOD comment I wanted to point out. To digress, sometimes I write things which make sense at the moment but to someone else reading later, may have a completely different meaning or may not be in the same context as was in my head when I wrote it.

I wrote yesterday I was holding off on purchasing a heart rate monitor & calorie counter thingie because I was scared it would tell me to eat more calories and if it did, I would probably ignore it. BUT…as Ruby Leigh pointed out, this could be read in a variety of ways.

This is a hard topic for me because there are some things I have yet to address on this blog. Today is not the day. But let me just say this. My eating has always been an issue for me. I have struggled with it in a variety of ways. Because of that, I am super sensitive to how “extreme” I become. I try to be very aware and perceptive to my own feelings and actions. My support system is also very sensitive to my actions.

What I failed to do, was be accountable to you, my readers. I started this blog with just the intent to share my journey, share frustrations with others and receive support. But over the past year, it has also become a source of inspiration and motivation for so many. So, it is my responsibility to you, my readers & my friends, to ensure the message I write every day is not misread or encourages unhealthy actions.

Your comments mean a lot to me – I take into consideration everything you say and just want to say thank you for always being open with me. I appreciate them all, agree or disagree.

First, I had to get over how totally awesome it was that I was featured in on THE PRIORFATGIRL site (How cool is that?!?!) Two, I was uber impressed with the maturity at which my original comment was received... very cool. Three, in a more serious tone now, I don't wish to ever make light of issues with eating, of any kind. I have had friends (in my non-virtual life as well) with similar struggles, and I have often felt powerless to do anything about it. I was nervous to say what I said, but I know sometimes it is the little things that make a big difference. I knew that if it wasn't the author's struggle, it could have been someone else reading the blog. At any rate - I am overwhelmed with the level of respect and thoughtfulness of this response and am so glad I said something

1 comment:

Jen, a priorfatgirl said...

I have goosebumps & got teary-eyed reading this today. Thank you so much for being an active part of my journey. There is no way I could do this alone and am so greatful for all the relationships the blog has given me, for the support I have received from these relationships, and the growth over the past two years.

You are amazing! (AND...a fellow MN resident, when are we getting together???)